Taking a break from natural hair today and remembering those who lost their lives on that fateful day 9/11/01. I took this photo at the Vietnam Memorial in Jacksonville, NC Lejeune Memorial Gardens ,where they have the names of countless soldiers who died in that war inscribed on glass panels. Just before you walk into the memorial there is a piece of a beam from one of the twin towers that was sent to those that volunteered their time and service to help the victims of 9/11. Visiting this memorial you will see lots of different memorials to different men and women who so bravely have given their lives for this country. I thought to myself, I really need to be thankful for my life and space in this country. Each day I say a prayer of thanks to God for blessing those people to be so brave that we may be able to enjoy our freedom. So many died on 9/11 so let us not let their deaths be in vain, we can take time out each day to give a moment of silence, do something nice for someone else and be thankful for the things we sometimes take for granted. I salute the men women and children who died and who gave their lives trying to save lives, I truly honor them, our true heroes.
Have you always wanted beautiful, long hair that cascades down your back? Most women do. That’s why weave and hair care is a billion dollar industry and Black women make up the majority who buy into it. Buying products that promise to grow your hair when in reality they are stunting your hair growth by using ingredients that make it nearly impossible for your hair to ever get passed the follicle! And if you can’t grow it, you have TLC telling you that you can buy it.
Who tells you how to grow it, though? Where are the people telling you that you are beautiful the way you are? Not in the main stream. Every 6 to 8 weeks, it’s time for a touch up; every month or 3 months, it’s time for a new weave. The world has no idea what your real natural hair looks like, your family doesn’t know, shoot, you don’t even know!
Why is there so much emphasis placed on making “our” hair look “better?” Why do we believe that our hair is not beautiful? Because it is different? So are our lips, noses, legs, thighs, and skin color, and everyone wants injections and tans. Imagine if we embrace our natural hair and wear it proudly like we do every other part of our body instead of trying to make it look like something it’s not. Imagine how you would feel if you studied your natural hair and grew it out and it was all yours? You would be proud of it! Why don’t we put effort into growing and caring for our real hair and wear it? And I don’t just mean real hair, I mean relaxer free!
Many would say they don’t like their natural hair and as soon as it begins to peek through in the root area, we perm it down. I used to, too, so I know! How would you know if you liked your natural hair if you haven’t seen it since you were 6? Who told you something was wrong with it and why did you believe them? Give your natural hair a chance!
People often say it’s a personal choice or preference, which is absolutely true, but don’t tell me it’s no big deal or it’s not that serious! That’s where I draw the line! It is deeper than that. Why would you spend big money regularly (or get it done for free for this matter) to make your hair look the exact opposite of the way it grows from your scalp? You just like it, right? However, it looks just like European hair, Chinese, Malaysian, or Indian hair, every type of hair except your own! Something is wrong with that! It’s a personal choice to lighten the skin too, but I wouldn’t recommend that! Look deeper! Maybe you wear fake hair that looks similar to your own. If you took the time to research and learn about your hair, you wouldn’t need to buy any weave! Find beauty within yourself and not in what society tells you is beautiful. Be confident in yourself!
People also say that there is nothing wrong with relaxing your hair. I disagree. A perm has the same ingredients as drain cleaner. What does drain cleaner do within 10 to 30 minutes? It breaks down a.k.a. burns everything out of your drains. It does the same thing to your hair and if you leave it on too long it will burn your hair all the way out! Think about this; people stretch their perms , which means they get them less often, so their hair can grow, and it works, so if stretching works, imagine what stopping would do.
Now, there’s nothing wrong with variety and wearing your hair straight from time to time, but there is something wrong with hating the way your natural hair looks and never letting it see the light of day. There is something wrong if you feel shameful or ugly when you are wearing your natural hair. It lies deep within. So deep it sometimes goes unrealized. We talk about each other and put each other down for being real. There is a popular saying in the natural community, “Remove the kinks from your mind, not your hair.” That is what we need to do. Hearing people say things like, “Being natural isn’t for everyone.” Really though? That is a mind boggler for me. Let’s take a quick second to define natural: 1. existing in or formed by nature 2. of or in agreement with the character of makeup or circumstances surrounding someone or something. -_- It grows from your scalp! Moving on. “It’s just hair,” is another one I hear. Well, why are you doing so much to change it then? Why not just let the “hair” grow out of your scalp the way God intended?
People want what they can’t have. You’ve heard of teasing hair, shampoo for thickening, volume and body and have seen numerous tools and products to change the texture of hair. Whether your hair is kinky, curly, straight, or wavy, learn it, love it, embrace it, and don’t let anyone make you feel any less than beautiful. You are beautiful, naturally.
Going natural never even crossed my mind. All the women I knew had relaxers or wore their hair straight, so when I say it never entered my mind to wear my hair in its natural state, I sincerely meant it.
Until my sister opened my oblivious eyes to this world of natural hair, I had no idea that there were hundreds of thousands of Black women throwing out the perm and wearing their natural hair! She told me to look on YouTube and once I seen all these African American women with long, curly, kinky hair; like the hair I never allowed to grow from my scalp for more than three months or so before I would get a perm slapped on it. Hair similar to that, was freely growing out of these ladies’ scalps and being showcased to the world, and to me, for the first time. Some were just getting started with a small afro, while others were years into the natural hair journey. There were women with hair reaching passed shoulder length, passed bra strap length and beyond waist length! I could not believe my eyes or my mind! It was unusual for me to see Black women with hair that long and it be real! Not only real but afro textured; natural! I was excited and anxious, but also upset!
You mean to tell me that the reason my hair never reached passed my shoulders was because of a RELAXER? You mean I was in the endless cycle of “perming, roots growing out, trimming ends?” No wonder my hair was same length all those years! I never gave it a chance! Every time it grew, I damaged it with a perm and then cut the damaged ends. How silly of me to believe that one day my hair would grow down my back if I continued this cycle. But I did, faithfully, for years and years because nobody told me otherwise.
“You should go natural.” That’s what my sister said to me. I thought about it, considered it and once I decided to do it, it changed everything. It didn’t take much convincing for me. I had already gone about 6 months without a perm, which was longer than usual (only because I found a really good flat iron), so I decided then that I would do it. I was not getting another relaxer put into my hair.
During the transition period, I got a semi chop, cutting a lot of my relaxed hair off, but not all. My plan was to go a year without perming before I cut the straight, relaxed ends off. I didn’t quite make it that long. After several months, I was still using heat and I had just flat ironed my hair for what would be the last time while having relaxed ends, and…
It rained! My hair was a mess! Puffy roots and straight ends, I can’t even think of a character to compared myself with. I knew one thing; I was done! I went home and asked my mom to cut the rest of my relaxed hair off. She looked at me, eyes big, and I am sure she understood why just by looking at my countenance. So later that day, we got to work and that was June, 2010. I had my last perm December, 2009. It is now August 2013 and I am proud to say that I have been natural ever since and don’t plan to ever return to the bondage of a perm. No longer am I afraid when it rains, no more of the “perm, grow, trim” cycle, no more do I feel like I need a perm for my hair to be beautiful, or for ME to be beautiful or presentable. I find beauty in my natural hair. It’s funny because I always prided myself in being 100% real, so much that I made a keychain in high school to describe me as being such. I wore my real nails, no make up, real lashes, and real hair, but even though it was my real hair, it wasn’t 100% real because it was chemically processed to be straight. But I struggled through the transition period, passed the TWA (teenie weenie afro) stage and now have some length to work with. So now when I wear my key chain, I truly am 100% real and it feels great! I’m confident and free. I am NATURAL!
Written by TheLaydi1
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If you follow my blog, you know that I haven’t posted for quite sometime now. I am still natural and loving it and my hair has grown quite a bit. In the meantime I’ve had another child, a little boy, and my husband and I purchased a home so there has been lots of excitement goingz on 🙂 I want to share more with you about my hair and also my children’s hair since we all have different textures, I may even get my husband to let me throw in a few pics of his hair.
Also in other Big News, my sister TheLaydi1 will be co-author of this site and will be adding lots of new topics, pictures and information! She also has a youtube channel that you absolutely must check out…. http://www.youtube.com/user/TheLaydi1/videos Her videos are awesome and she does lots of tutorials (what natural doesn’t love tutorials?!?) so check her out and leave her a comment letting her know I sent ya!
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I recently saw a video on YouTube http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XxMcYlmlmzE where a woman who I have been subscribed to for a while (because of her natural hair), made a video to say that she had gotten a relaxer because she was looking for a job and another professional black woman told her that natural hair was not excepted everywhere. She claimed that she couldn’t get her hair straight enough with pressing so getting a relaxer was her only alternative if she wants to get the job she wants. She goes on to say how she doesn’t want anyone to send her hate mail or negative comments because she is not conforming, she is just relaxed until she gets a job then she is going to transition back to natural. She says that natural hair is, “her” and that she is definitely not giving up, she was very adamant about us not viewing her as a sell out. Check out the link if you want to see her explain her reasons and she also goes into detail about her current job and why she is looking for another. I still like her and will keep my subscription to her channel for when she comes back, she has made really good videos in the past. I don’t knock her for making a decision she thought was best even though i disagree.
It made me sad to see that someone whom I thought was very strong in who she is and determined to maintain her natural hair, would let her profession determine how to treat her hair. I thought that it was indeed conforming even though she reiterated that she was going to transition as soon as she finishes her job search. To myself, I was thinking “I would not want to work for a company that did not accept my natural hair”. How could you lie to yourself and try to trick yourself into thinking that you are not conforming. Although I can understand her outlook and making money for your livelihood is very important, is that particular company going to respect you and keep you as an employee when you transition back to your natural hair? If a company/business can’t accept you with your natural hair, why would they respect you as a person in general and what would stop them from getting rid of you when your natural hair grows out. Not to mention the time it takes to grow your natural hair out after having a relaxer, it takes a long time hence the “natural hair journey”.
I don’t have any issues with ladies who chose to relax because they like their hair that way, but when you are doing it for the purposes of being excepted I feel this is a problem. What if they asked someone who has relaxed hair to go natural? It is a degrading feeling not to be excepted because of your hair or any other part of your body. We should not be going through this in 2010, but the reality is that people are still prejudiced and racist. I think the only way to put a stop to it is to let it be known publicly. Take it to the newspaper and the local news and allow others to know whats going on. There is strength in numbers. Its time to stand up!
My question is, do you think there should be a limit as to what you should do or change about yourself personally to get a job? Do you feel that this woman conformed? What would you do in this same situation? Do you feel that black woman need to have straight hair to present themselves as professional? Please leave a comment and let me know, share your thoughts and/or experiences.
These are my personal opinions and I have not been paid to express them.
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Strengthen your defense naturally
- Eat Well– Enjoy whole fruits and vegetables for the vitamins, minerals, and antioxidants your body needs to defend itself.
- Hydrate– Drink pure water throughout the day–at least eight large glasses. Dehydration reduces the effectiveness of your nasal membranes, which are your first line of defense against inhaled cold germs.
- Get your Z’s– Getting enough rest is crucial. Sleep deprivation can lead to a decline in the number of infection-fighting cells, leaving you susceptible to illness.
- Wash Up– Wash your hands often. Cover your mouth with the crook of your arm when sneezing or coughing in order to reduce the spread of bacteria. Frequently wash or disinfect commonly touched items such as telephones, doorknobs, drawer handles, and stair railings.
- Add Supplements– Consider taking vitamin C and the mineral zinc. A recent study confirms the supportive effects of both, nothing that deficiencies can lead to impaired immune health. Like vitamin C, antioxidant-rich vitamin E protects cells from free-radical damage. Vitamin E may also enhance immune function.
- Herbal Helpers– Try supplemental garlic, which contains antibacterial compounds. Another option is taking echinacea. Some studies show that this herb may reduce the length and severity of colds. Echinacea is not recommended for continuous, long-term use.
Source: Nature’s Place Magazine
Olive oil- an oil obtained from the olive, a traditional tree crop of the Mediterranean Basin. It is commonly used in cooking, cosmetics, pharmaceuticals, and soaps and as a fuel for traditional oil lamps.
Nutrition benefits of olive oil
Evidence from epidemiological studies suggests that a higher proportion of monounsaturated fats in the diet is linked with a reduction in the risk of coronary heart disease. This is significant because olive oil is considerably rich in monounsaturated fats, most notably oleic acid.
In the United States, producers of olive oil may place the following health claim on product labels:
- Limited and not conclusive scientific evidence suggests that eating about 2 tbsp. (23 g) of olive oil daily may reduce the risk of coronary heart disease due to the monounsaturated fat in olive oil. To achieve this possible benefit, olive oil is to replace a similar amount of saturated fat and not increase the total number of calories you eat in a day.Unlike saturated fats, olive oil lowers total cholesterol and LDL levels in the blood. It is also known to lower blood sugar levels and blood pressure.
- Extra-virgin olive oil comes from virgin oil production only, contains no more than 0.8% acidity, and is judged to have a superior taste. Extra Virgin olive oil accounts for less than 10% of oil in many producing countries. It is used on salads, added at the table to soups and stews and for dipping.
- Virgin olive oil comes from virgin oil production only, has an acidity less than 2%, and is judged to have a good taste.
- Pure olive oil. Oils labeled as Pure olive oil or Olive oil are usually a blend of refined and virgin production oil.
- Olive oil is a blend of virgin and refined production oil, of no more than 1.5% acidity. It commonly lacks a strong flavor.
In Calabria, the women regularly use the oil to take care of their hair and hands.
Studies on mice showed that application of olive oil immediately following exposure to UVB rays has a preventive effect on the formation of tumors and skin cancer.
Types of olive oil
Olive oil for your skin
In addition to the internal health benefits of olive oil, topical application is quite popular with fans of natural health remedies. Extra virgin olive oil is the preferred grade for moisturizing the skin, especially when used in the oil cleansing method (OCM). OCM is a method of cleansing and moisturizing the face with a mixture of extra virgin olive oil, castor oil (or another suitable carrier oil) and a select blend of essential oils. Olive oil is also used by some to reduce ear wax buildup.
You can use olive oil as a face moisturizer, removing make-up, shaving to get a closer shave and body oil. Add it to your bath to soften and moisturize the skin, just add a few drops. You can also use it as a facial scrub: wet your face, add a few drops of olive oil to your face, add a tsp of sugar (i use dark brown sugar) to your face, massaging, then rinse off. Also good as a lip balm to soothe lips.
Olive oil for your hair
For fly aways and frizz, just add a few drops of olive oil to your hair. It can also be a deep conditioner, you can add a few tbsp to your normal conditioner and apply it as a deep conditioner. Cover your hair, leave on for 25 to 30 minutes, rinse. It can also make your hair shiny and cure dandruff. If you want to use it as a hot oil treatment:
Olive oil for your nails-Recipe
To soften, condition and strengthen nails and cuticles.
•2 tbsp olive oil
•3 drops of lemon juice
•Mix ingredients in a bowl, place nails and fingers in the bowl and soak for 5 minutes. Dry your hands and your done. Repeat as often as needed.
In my opinion
I really like using olive oil in place of hair grease, its much lighter and doesn’t weigh my hair down. I have mixed it with my “raw shea butter” along with coconut oil and a few other oils and moisturizers to make a great whipped mixture to use as a styling aid and moisturizer. I prefer the extra virgin olive oil. I’ve been using olive oil to cook with for a long time and I don’t miss the other more fatty oils that I used to use. There are many different kinds of oils that you can cook with that will bring out flavor and aid when frying at high temperatures and are also more healthy for you. Later I will be doing more posts on other oils that can be used for many uses other than cooking. Overall I’d give olive oil a thumbs up for all of its benefits. Thanks for Reading
Learn your product’s ingredients, if you don’t know what they are are what they do, look them up! Don’t put things in your hair or on your skin without knowing a little about it first.